I feel useless.
Have you ever said this? Or maybe just thought it to yourself?
I can tell you that I’ve felt this I feel useless way more than a few times. When I was feeding my family Ramen noodles for lunch and supper every day going after a goal I believed in at that time, I felt useless. Totally useless.
When our electric got cut off because I couldn’t bother to look at the due date because I was afraid that we weren’t going to have the money to pay the bill — I felt useless.
If you’re feeling useless, it’s not abnormal and there is a way out. Continue reading this article to learn how to overcome feelings of worthlessness.
Start Your Morning Off Right
If you don’t win your mornings, the rest of the day is going to be a runaway train. You’re going to get to the end of the day and feel like you didn’t accomplish anything and that’s when that worthless feeling really creeps in a lot of the time.
Wake up a little earlier in the morning and give yourself time to breathe and think about the good things you want to happen.
Practicing self care in the morning is a great way to start showing yourself that you care. If you don’t take care of yourself, that feeling of worthlessness is only going to grow.
Your self care plan might be different than mine and that’s okay. You have to decide what is going to work for you in the morning.
I like writing out morning pages and letting all of my demons out on paper or on my morning pages app on my iPhone. I also have a cup of hot tea which I find very soothing. Sometimes I also meditate which is very calming.
Even if you can only take 10 or 15 minutes for yourself — do it. Just try it for a couple of weeks and see how you’ll start to feel better about yourself.
Help Someone Else
One of the fastest ways to feel good about yourself and stop the feelings of uselessness is to help someone that is in a worse situation than you.
It doesn’t have to be anything big.
Say something nice to a stranger and make them smile. Hold the door for someone or find a volunteer opportunity in your community.
For me, this blog is one of the ways that I give back. I want to share hope with you and anyone else that takes the time to read these blogs. My heart goes out to people that feel helpless, hopeless, useless and worthless.
If you’re a writer then you might consider sharing your journey and your steps out of these feelings to help other people.
It’s great for accountability.
Do Mirror Work
I watched this great video by Marisa Peer and I am going to share it with you below. I was going through such a terrible time and feeling so down about myself when I saw this video and it was super helpful.
I wrote “I am enough” on my mirror in the red lipstick like she said to do in the video. And I told myself how amazing I was and it felt stupid for a really long time but then I started feeling better and things in my life started changing.
It may not have been all due to this but it definitely did have something to do with it. Give it a watch.
Create an Evidence Book of Your Awesomeness
When someone gives you a compliment, when you accomplish something that you’re proud of or if you can think of anything else that makes you feel good about yourself, write it down in an evidence book.
When you’re feeling low and you’re feeling useless, open the book and remind yourself who you are. Remind yourself how amazing you are.
This evidence book can be your lifeline when no one else is there to tell you how amazing you are. You can read this book to keep your awesomeness fresh in your mind.
Set a goal to have so many things written down in your evidence book and set appointments with yourself to sit down and read through the book to keep yourself feeling good.
Practice Gratitude to Stop Feelings of Uselessness
An attitude of gratitude will help you start to feel the goodness of your life. You’ll start to see there are good things in your life and you’ll start to focus on them because you’re practicing gratitude.
Practicing gratitude just means to sit and feel grateful. You might even write down what you feel grateful for in your gratitude journal.
The more grateful you feel, the less useless you’ll feel. You’ll start to see that you’ve done a lot, helped people and brought good into the world.
Stop Saying I Feel Useless – For Good
Now you have some tools that are going to help you stop saying “I feel useless.” It’s time to live your life and feel happiness and wholeness again.
You have control of your life and you can start your first steps toward feeling good about yourself. Maybe you’ve never felt good about yourself before. If you haven’t, it’s an amazing feeling — I guarantee it.
If you’re feeling good now and you’re out of the I feel useless stage, why not drop a comment of encouragement for someone else that’s feeling down?
Also, if you have seriously bad feelings and want to hurt yourself, please contact the National Helpline and talk to someone that can help you. It’s nothing to be ashamed of. The world needs you here, so make the call and get the help you need.