I have to admit that the subject of being humble has been more than a little touchy on my end. This is mainly because a lot of the time when I was a kid many people that I knew and looked up to made me think that being humble was WOE IS ME! I am a worm. The more that I think of myself as a despicable person the better my life is supposed to be. Well I didn’t buy that one bit.
Later I heard someone else that had a much better life (to my standards) than the person who had been teaching about that worm business. They were talking about being confident and being sure about your abilities. I had learned that confidence was pride and we all know that pride goes before a fall and a haughty spirit before destruction. This just wasn’t lining up in my mind since the person who was “humble” to their own standards was living a pretty miserable existence in my eyes and the confident person was very happy, doing well and impacting lives.
It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out one of them has to be wrong in their teaching OR I had totally misunderstood what they meant OR there had been multiple misunderstanding between various people. What a mess!
Another thing I had learned as a child was that you know if the tree is good by its fruit. What is their life producing? If you do what that person does you’re going to get the same fruit etc. I started watching the fruit that was being produced and I found out that not only had I taken a few of the things the original teacher had taught about humility and made it even worse than it was but they had seemingly misinterpreted the Bible they were reading out of as well.
[info]Did you know that being humble does not mean you have to act like you’re a worm?[/info]
The definition of humble is as follows: modesty or respectfulness: the quality of being modest or respectful
Ok. Modest means you don’t show skin right? Hmmm how does that fit in there? No, it wasn’t talking about not showing skin.
The definition of modesty is as follows: unwillingness to draw attention to your own achievements or abilities
Now I was really confused. I’m supposed to be confident (which I thought was prideful) but I’m not supposed to be drawing attention to myself? *sigh*
Good news… I actually looked up the definition of confidence. lol
The definition of confidence is as follows: belief in own abilities: self assurance or a belief in your ability to succeed
There is nothing prideful about this at all. How in the world did pride and confidence get mixed up? Who knows but once I got this into my mind there was no turning back. I began to move forward with confidence AND with humility and things started working out so much better.
Whenever we are humble and know that we are not different than anyone except for the fact that we made a choice then we will not ostracize ourselves from those that have not made it to this part of the process yet. While we may not take close association with those people we have compassion and mercy. Instead of pointing fingers, getting mad at people and judging let’s remember to be humble and confident in the decision to move forward and live better lives.
What have you believed on humility? Do you have any thoughts to share on the subject? We are always learning and growing and I always welcome other viewpoints.