One of the biggest things I’ve learned from being married and having a great teammate for this parenthood deal is that if the team isn’t winning then we aren’t winning. I remember being single and all I had to do is make sure that I had my stuff together. Well, when you are in a committed relationship, on a sports team or some other sort of team then you have to think of the team.
What if you scored the most points in the game but the other team collectively scored more points? Who won? Not your team! Since your team didn’t win then you didn’t win either even though you personally scored more points than anyone.
Whenever you commit to a friendship or deeper relationship or even a relationship with your clients or members of your network marketing or sales team then you have to remember that when the team isn’t winning then something has to be done. If someone is having challenges in one area and you are good in that area then it is time to go lend a hand if they are willing to accept help.
Team Win Example
For instance, my husband and I have specific tasks that we each tackle so that we don’t overlap each other and we get things done. Well, what happens if something comes up and one of us is not able to get those things done? Well, now that we have learned how to go for the team win, we go and pick up that slack and come alongside whoever is having the challenge. Whether it be washing the dishes, helping a child with teamwork etc. Yes, I know this sounds amazing that we can work together this way but even that too work! 😉
Some People Really Don’t Want Help
Have you ever had that friend or team member that always calls you with the same script? It seems like they are reading it off a note card and practicing for the big stage!! “I don’t have time to do this or that.” “If I was in your situation, I could do it.” and on and on. Well, there is a time that you just have to stop the abusive relationship. If they continue to call and ask for advice then despite how much you care, it is important that you LET IT GO. It is for their own good as well. You’ll stop the pay off they are getting from YOU buying their excuses and that will enable them to move on.
3 main points I want you to take away from this article are:
1: Look for those in your team that you have committed to that need help and come alongside them.
2: Not everyone really wants help – some of them LOVE their excuses and stories for why they are where they are.
3: There is a balance between everything and you may not always make the right decision but have the right attitude and you’ll make the best decision that you can when it comes to your team members. 🙂